The really horrible thing about weddings is that they involve a lot of decisions: cake, dress, venue, food, guest lists, photographers. Any wrong decision can spell problems (at least, to those, like me, who used to overdose on the daily judge shows). A photographer who overexposes film. A DJ who gets drunk and hits on the guests. A mother-of-the-bride who loudly expresses her doubts during the ceremony (true story!). The number of decisions involved exponentially increases the potential for something to go wrong. Apparently, it does not help the bride for her Turtle Mom to point out that when things go wrong, they make good stories for the holiday dinners to come.

So Daughter was stressing over making these decisions (complete with interesting nightmares that the cake went MIA for the reception). I tried to comfort her — she’s leaning toward cupcakes, and it is much harder to disappear a lot of cupcakes than one cake. This observation did not relieve her stress.

I don’t blame her. I hate making decisions on big-ticket, or important items like the right gift for those I love and have to share a holiday with. I will dither over airline prices for days — keeping every travel site page open, just in case a 99 cents airfare deal comes along (never has, but hope springs eternal in this woman’s heart). When I finally come down to the wire and need to make the purchase, I get an electric thrill of fear from toes to pate as I push the “No Backsies” button (I almost always book nonrefundable hotel/airfare deals because they’re cheap…like me). And then, as soon as I get the email confirmation, I peruse it with dread, fearing that I accidentally selected the wrong date, the wrong time, the wrong departure/arrival airport. So far, I never have. But I know myself — I could.

It is no wonder that I almost always leave the final decision on big purchases to my husband (for example, the dishwasher we bought last week — he did the research; he picked the model, I gave the thumbs up without a single thrill of fear). After all, he made the decision, so if things go wrong — I can be the person who says, “It’s only a dishwasher, hon, don’t feel bad. Who could know that it would explode through the roof and take the cat to the moon? None of the reviews mentioned that possibility.”

When it came to our wedding, I let my husband-to-be’s and mother’s choices rule. To be honest, all I really cared about was celebrating the marriage with family and friends. I knew my mom and my husband-to-be cared much more about some of the details than I did — and none of the things they cared about were going to interfere with my goal of family and celebration. So I let them make the final decision.

I know Daughter and future Son-in-Law will make great decisions, and I told her so. But I also know the biggest fear that comes along with making a decision is that you’re missing a bigger/better choice. When the wedding decisions start piling up, the tension over roads untaken rises. Happily, as I told Daughter, once the decision is made the tension begins to dissipate. Once you’ve made your choice — chocolate/vanilla wedding cupcakes with tan and cream icing instead of a fondant three-tier — you’re done, and you can take a deep breath. And move on to the next decision — how to create a menu that accommodates guests with gluten allergies, vegetarians, vegans, and red meat lovers?

As I told Daughter, she’s good at decision making, and the people who come to her wedding will not miss the cupcakes if they mysteriously disappear. Much. They’re not there for cupcakes. They’re there to celebrate with her. And there will be plenty of family around to run out to the nearest bakery for a big box of cupcakes, just in case. And I will be on standby for the obligatory, “Don’t worry honey, everything else went perfectly. No one noticed that the special vegan green bean dish wasn’t served.”

How often do you second guess yourself when making an important decision?

Do you let someone else make the final decision and play the part of “Don’t worry, honey, you couldn’t have known that puppy was descended from Cujo?”

Do you watch those judge shows? I had to stop. I thought I would learn how to avoid problems, but all I really learned is that there is no way to avoid problems — and most people don’t see them coming — and some smug judge making a ruling based on “you should have known better” is very small consolation when you don’t.

One of the things that all couples planning for a future together know is that life has a propensity to set very well thought out plans aside and go into Chaos Mode. You’re driving to work, planning out how you will handle the day’s workload when your tire blows and suddenly you’re on the side of the road waiting for AAA. Or you’re changing a tire in your work clothes. You’d like a small wedding, but you have 200 people you’d really like to celebrate with you. Little things like that.

How a couple deals with the setbacks to plans is almost as important as how well they plan together. Laughing is good, when possible. For example, this story of a proposal gone awry, in my own local newspaper, the Bangor Daily News:

Self-proclaimed nerds to get married after newspaper proposal

OLD TOWN, Maine — When Rachel Rier met Sean Carter, it was instant nerd love.

The two, both University of Maine students, met at the Bear’s Den during karaoke night.

“He chatted me up about math languages — be still my heart. Then we sang ‘Crazy’ by Gnarls Barkley,” said Rier as Carter started singing the tune and dancing on their love seat.

Their second date? They played Mario Kart.

“She won,” said Carter.

And now, 2½ years later, right in time for Valentine’s Day, the two decided to get married.

Carter popped the big question in last Thursday’s The Weekly Question, a front-page feature of the local newspaper that comes inserted in the Bangor Daily News. He is shown in a picture holding a ring out and the caption reads, “Rachel, I have a question for you …”

The proposal didn’t quite go as he planned. The original plan was that Rier already would be at the Old Town home they share when Carter would get the free newspaper from the mailbox and bring it in.

In other words — things went wrong pretty quickly, but (as the headline proclaims) everything worked out in the end. You should go read the full story. It will make you smile to know that even nerds can find happiness, not to mention laugh when plans go awry.

In our busy, perfectionist, world it can be difficult to deal with setbacks gracefully. After all, a full workday tends to be full. Many of us are doing the jobs that two people used to do. A flat tire causes problems that propagate through the rest of the day, and even into the next week. If the flat tire occurred because your spouse/partner/SO put off taking the car for new tires, as you’d both planned? It can be difficult to laugh. But successful couples do it anyway.

I come from a family of storytellers, and one of the things I learned early was that when plans go awry, a useful thought to get you from fury to laughter is: “This is going to make a good story.” The lesson went so deep that I can actually think that as things fall apart. I swear it helps me get to the laughter part faster.

Nothing can change plans gone awry. But laughter — and adapting to the new plan — will make a great story for the wedding toast/kids/grandkids. Or maybe your local newspaper — and the professors in your university program.

Do you have a “plans gone awry” story that made for a good story afterward? Share it here.

The resource in question is one I am very proud of being a part of creating. I belong to the writer’s group Novelists Inc (hereinafter abbreviated NINC). This is a group of published writers who are daring to make careers out of writing novels (not an easy thing). Our conference last year was focused on the New Tools, and New Rules for writers that have been ushered in by the digital age of publishing. It was exciting, and energizing for me, as a writer. But even more, I got to work behind the scenes on our big project: The Ninc Binder: A Comprehensive Guide to the New World of Publishing. 

We knew two things for sure when we dreaming up the idea. 1) that we wanted this to be as comprehensive as we could make it (from terminology to expert insider advice); and 2) that we wanted the electronic copy t to become a free resource for all writers, not just NINC members.

So we set about asking everyone we thought had some experience and wisdom to impart to contribute. We were very pleased with the results, as were our members when we unpacked the physical Binder and distributed it at the October conference. But now we have the lighter, searchable pdf version to unveil for everyone. Free.

The best part? As we were putting together the ideas behind this year’s NINC conference (the conference itself is limited to NINC members, but we have a one-day workshop that is open to all interested writers), we realized that the New World of Publishing is changing every day. So we’re planning to update the Binder periodically — adding more good stuff, tweaking the information that we’ve already got in there (Amazon has already added three new countries of distribution to its list, for example). Did I mention that we’re offering this free?

So, if you are a writer — go download the pdf now; feel free to send us a request to cover something we haven’t done yet (for example, I’ve already got a request in for an article on agencies acting as epublishers, the good, the bad, the worrisome). Leave a comment with any suggestions for additional topics of interest, or experts you’d like to hear from).

And please, spread the word. This is a free resource, and NINC is dedicated to helping novelists have a long, healthy, and sane career (not easy in this business).

One of the things I’ve always hoped for my children is that they each find a life partner who is a true partner for the traditional “in sickness, in health” deal. With Daughter’s wedding flying toward us at warp speed, I’ve been thinking about what kind of magic can ensure a long-haul marriage.

I’m not under the impression that this is easy magic (magic does tend to come at a cost in most fantasy novels, right?). In my Once Upon a Wedding historical romance series, I had a lot of fun exploring the natural conflicts that arise when marriage doesn’t go smoothly — and in historical times, divorce was often not an option…not that our ancestors didn’t find ways to deal with being yoked to someone who made you grind what was left of your teeth. Those Victorians knew how to look oh-so-proper and still be naughty. They even make the Kardashian hijinks look tame.

The modern day divorce rate is a little frightening, but I doubt too many people actually get married thinking they’re going to get divorced. For example, the jury is still out on Kim Kardashian and her uber expensive fairytale wedding…for a a marriage that lasted less than a year. I refuse to believe she meant it as a publicity stunt — just because of her sisters, and their relationships. I know sisters. I have three. We don’t fight like the Kardashians (and thank goodness for that), but we do support each other. After all, we’re family. So here’s my take on Kim’s flawed attempt at marriage: she saw her sisters do the deep bond thing, and misinterpreted what she saw. Take Kourtney — she isn’t married, but she is deeply attached to her man Scott. Enough to have two kids with him and put up with some pretty bad boy behavior. And Khloe, who married her man Lamar after knowing him for a very short time, but who embraced him as her family in a way you know she has his back, come hell or highwater.

Kim, on the other hand, went shopping for the “perfect” husband like she might shop for the perfect purse. I think she hadn’t paid attention to something her sisters accepted along with their men: a man in your life means your life changes and becomes about two people, not one. (Ditto for adding a woman to your life, guys). As those of us wh are married can attest, this is both magic, and magically annoying. One of the things I had to give up for my marriage was spaghetti for family dinner. DH had a bad experience with it as a child. I, on the other hand, ate it weekly and had very warm family meal memories built around a big pot of spaghetti with my mom’s great meat sauce. So I learned to make spaghetti when he wasn’t home for dinner, or for a quick lunch for the kids (and me). [NOTE: It is even more annoying to have to give up the carbs while trying to transform to elegant mother-of-the-bride. I gave up sugar, but giving up spaghetti is the worst!]

I don’t think Kim thought she’d be returning her “perfect husband” to the designer shop quite so quickly. I suspect she forgot to put “I love him so much I’m willing to share my space with him even when he annoys the dickens out of me” on her list of good husband traits (Kim would no doubt have added some expletives into that sentiment, but this is a PG-rated blog, so I won’t go there). I suspect a lot of people do that, especially nowadays when we spend a lot of time and money trying to optimize our lives (exactly how do you optimize your sleep experience when your spouse snores? earplugs? separate bedrooms? divorce?).

I’d like to point out that all my insight comes from about an hour of watching the Kardashian reality TV show (bits and pieces of several shows over a couple of years) — and listening to my favorite radio couple Bob and Sheri talk about them (most of the time not that positively, but absolutely hilarious all the same). Bob and Sheri are not married to each other, but they have the perfect non-marriage kind of partnership — they have each other’s back…even when they annoy the dickens out of each other. Which brings me to their recent radio program where they discussed a survey done by a travel company that lists what happy couples do:

1. 2 vacations a year
2. 2 short breaks a year
3. Say I love you 9 times in two weeks
4. kiss 6 times a week
5. cuddle 11 times every two weeks
6. 2 deep meaningful conversations a week
7. dinner out 3 times a month
8. drinks out 3 times a month
9. Make love twice a week
10. healthy argument once a week
11. girls’/guys’ night out alone with friends 2 times a month
12. surprise romantic gesture 3 times a month
13. movie night at home 5 times a month

If you are like me, and that list of 13 things (13! — isn’t that a bad omen?) makes you very tired as you imagine one more HoneyDo checklist in your life — here’s something that’s easier to do:  an article on the chemistry behind long-term marriage (on HowStuffWorks, of all places). There’s no checklist, just a mandate to have fun, learn together, give each other room to grow, and understand that courtship passion gives way to something deeper. Something that allows you to put up with each other’s annoying traits and feel safe enough in your partnership to stretch your wings and fly.

Do you think a checklist is a good idea, or a bad idea? And what would you put on it?

Whine Subject of the Week: Invitations

Who decided that a wedding invitation needed as many pieces as a do-it-yourself bookshelf? The invitation, a reception card, an RSVP card, a directions card, some filmy bits of paper that serve no purpose (but make good kindling for a wood stove).

Daughter sent Save the Date cards and is now panicked because she is hearing from almost everyone that they’re excited to attend. Don’t get me wrong, she wants to see all these people. She just worries I’m not going to be able to afford to feed them all. She’s used to my “write a lot – make a little” lifestyle. I tell her the Once Upon a Wedding series is selling well, that I’ve put The Fairy Tale Bride on 99 cents sale on every venue I could think of  until after the wedding, but she worries.

So she called me this week to let me know that she has decided to follow the example of a few of her friends and make her invitations. No RSVP cards, No Reception cards, just a handmade invitation. I offered my color laser printer for printing (and as if it knew, it promptly stopped working yesterday…but I will get it fixed, or die trying). She wanted to know if I objected. Me? Who would be fine with having people RSVP on the website. To be fair, she called her grandmother first, as her grandmother does care about such things (but economy and the allure of personal crafting was an easy sell to Grandmom).

I was tempted to give her permission to go paperless for the modern generation, and only send invites to the older generations (some of whom — her Mommom, for example — don’t even own computers). But that would be a hard sell for Grandmom (who is totes tech-savvy, btw), who would then have to decide who could handle an electronic RSVP without a tech meltdown.

As I thought about it more, I wondered how long it will be before formal invitations go by the wayside. Not for the really fancy wedding folks (those people who plop down $100,000 or more and do real china and sit down meals instead of Chinet and BBQ). But for families who have to deal with real life budgets and make a dollar stretch until it sings.

Will we end up with Text invites? Dude, u & +1 r invited to my weds – 1/1/2100 B there or B square

Or maybe Twitter will be the medium of choice? #Wedding @bride and @groom U r invited RSVP http:ourweddingsite.nup

The more traditional (and wordier) folks can gussy up a Facebook Page and sent FB invites.

One thing I realized after talking to Daughter. No matter how I am invited to a wedding of people I love, if I can possibly make it, my RSVP will be: Count me in!

So I’m glad that the people she has invited are excited and planning to come. The more the merrier.

What about you? Do you mind if the wedding invitation isn’t as formal as you’re used to? Do you give allowances for brides on a budget? Or do you think tradition rules?

I’m off to fix the printer. I’ll share the final product with you when I get one. Daughter is a perfectionist, so I’m anticipating an awesome invitation…without all the card and filmy paper poop to go with.

Daughter and I were talking last week and she mentioned a recurring nightmare: that she forgets her vows. Naturally, I said, “Oh, have you decided what you’re going to say?”

No. She hadn’t. As I have said before, I am not up on the wedding stuff, modern or traditional. I catch a glimpse of something interesting every so often (the couple that got married in a sky dive, the couple that got married in a library, the couple that got married in a Wal-Mart). But then I move on.

Daughter’s wedding is different. I’m seeing it close up, like a piece of furniture that arrives unassembled in its box and I have to identify each piece before I know where (and how) it fits into the whole. I should mention that I have put unassembled furniture together in the past, and I wish I’d had the foresight to video one of those exercises in frustration for YouTube.

For my wedding, we used the traditional vows (except for obey…I gave dh a choice of including it for both of us, or for neither; he chose neither; wise man). Pretty simple, straightforward and no need to write anything special and have nightmares that I’d forget it.

I really like the idea of people crafting their own vows, though, as Daughter and her fiance will be doing. A quick search of the internet reveals much advice and examples of vows other couples have used. But it also raises a high bar — this is the most important part of the ceremony for the couple. The part where they make their promises to love and honor (and not obey) in sickness and health (of themselves *and* and pets and/or children…not to mention an aging Turtle Mom…but all I need is my computer and a printer and I’m good).

I thought I’d take a shot, but then I realized that Daughter will be wary of any of my writing efforts (see the Confessions of a Turtle Mom if you don’t understand this perfectly natural reaction for any child of a writing mother). Besides, I rarely go to weddings and I haven’t got a clue where to start.

So — I’d really like suggestions from people who pay attention to these kinds of things. What kinds of promises does a modern woman need to make to her husband? To diligently contribute to the 401K? To make dinner at least 50% of the week? Not to gloat if her sports teams cream his?

What are the most touching vows you’ve ever heard, and why did they touch you so much (just like the best writing, it probably has something to do with revealing the hearts and minds of the bride and groom).

I’ll compile the answers and send them to Daughter. Hopefully, with your help, we can stop the nightmares!

History: The Fairy Tale Bride was listed at 99 cents for a Backlist Ebooks sale just before Christmas, and when the sale was over, I attempted to put the price back to $2.99. Amazon has (typical) kept it at 99 cents and so has B&N (not so typical). iTunes (respectfully typical) changed it when I asked them to.

Background: All e-retailers have an agreement with author/publisher that the book will not be listed elsewhere for lower than the price the publisher sets.

This seems perfectly fair until you realize that they all have their own procedures for changing the price, and that procedure includes looking to see what everyone else does. It can become a game of Price Chicken, with the poor author/publisher squashed no matter what happens.

Philosophy: When life gives you lemons, make a big pitcher of lemonade and sit back and enjoy the spectacle.

Sesame Place. We nearly lost her forever in the climbing nets.

As I’ve blathered on about quite a bit here, my daughter is getting married. This year! (Last year it seemed so far away, but now…ahh!). It hardly seems possible, as she is still so young.

Because the proceeds from this book go directly to support her wedding, and I’m busy doing lots of wedding promotion and angsting type things, I don’t really want to have to monitor price changes every so often. The perfect solution is a wedding sale that lasts until she gets married (and a little beyond, as I will be very tired).

So, I’ve changed it back to 99 cents everywhere (although iTunes may take a day or two to update the price).

Yo – Universe! You hear me? That’s 99 cents until the end of August. A super bargain.

Word.

Not *the* dress, but cute.

ANNOUNCEMENT: For any Kindle owners who don’t want to miss a second of the Turtle Mom Wedding saga (which began last year with Confessions of a Turtle Mom), you now have the option to subscribe to the About a Wedding blog on Amazon. Unfortunately, you cannot subscribe to blogs with the Kindle app yet, so you non-Kindle folks can Follow the blog, or the RSS feed, or sign up for the monthly newsletter for a reminder.

2012 is here. I was happily thinking I had 8 months to get ready, but Accountant Sister pointed out my time math is lacking and I only have (had!) 7. I keep having a recurring dream that I get the date wrong and show up too late to see my daughter get married. I’m pretty sure that won’t happen (just like I never actually forgot to attend a college class I signed up for, despite the many dreams that I had). But what if it does?

Can you tell I’m panicking? I just realized I have a lot of work to do to get ready, and not a lot of time to do it. Some things are set. But many things still need to be figured out, arranged, and then carried out. Reality is setting in, hard.

in 2011, Daughter was engaged and all was exciting and golden…but there wasn’t a date, so there was this surreal feel to it all. Then she set a date, way into Spring 2012, so it still didn’t feel real. Then, in June, we met in mid-America and went dress shopping with my mom, Accountant Sister, my cousin and my niece. Felt a little more real seeing her in a parade of dresses, but as no decisions were made, and 2012 was soooo far off…

In the late summer we started talking venue more seriously. Science Dad pushed the East Coast, I favored Florida, Daughter was set on getting married in the redwoods. Daughter and Fiance found a reasonably priced place among trees and nature. Yay! But Spring was no longer a good choice for that venue. Boo!

In late fall, the venue and date were finally fixed for summer 2012, and the deposit made. Still soooo far away. [Stop laughing those of you who are not time-challenged.]

Over the holidays, the guest list was made, re-made, winnowed, and sighed over. There are people we want to invite that we can’t, but not too many. The Save the Date cards were ordered (who decided brides needed Save the Date cards? Oh for the day when everyone who was invited lived close by, or could be alerted with a family phone tree).

Last week, we got our Save the Date card. Science Dad promptly shot off an email that we had a conflict with that date (we’re so witty in our family). Daughter, naturally, did not deign to reply.

Last week, I began my campaign to transform into an elegant mother-of-the-bride. I received several comforting comments that I’m fine as I am. I also received several tips on places to go for support. So far, I’ve signed up for a half-marathon in June, Sparkpeople, and I’m eyeing P90x…but I need a little more stamina before I can do that one.

Still to come: menu for rehearsal BBQ, menu for wedding, bridesmaid dresses, my dress, travel arrangements for our family, including Daughter’s travel-challenged Mom-Mom. Oh, and the real invitations still have to be chosen, filled out, mailed. Then we need to find something borrowed, something blue, something old, something new…. What am I forgetting? I know I’m forgetting many things. I haven’t been part of planning a wedding since I got married (and my mom did all the work on that one).

My goal for this 2012 blog is to get advice from experts, and share it here, all while trying not to panic that I’m going to forget something important. I’ll also solicit and share wisdom from the family members and friends who have been married for a while about what makes the years that follow the wedding day work well.

But experts don’t have all the answers, so I welcome suggestions and advice from readers who have been there, done that. Or, just lots of wishes for luck! I have a feeling it’s going to be a very bumpy 7 6 months.

P.S. Did I mention the dress has been ordered? I can’t show it, of course, because the groom-to-be might see it. But I can give you a peek at what was not chosen. Her choice was half-price because it was a floor model. Next comes alterations. And shoes. And headwear. Fortunately, Daughter is a fashionista, so whatever she chooses will be perfect. It will just take a while to find the right thing.

Naturally, having very sharp hindsight, I can see several things I did wrong in this campaign. I thought I’d get some use out of our efforts by passing along tips to future Kickstarter campaigners.

1. Epic Fail in timing: I scheduled this campaign over the holidays (what was I thinking? oh, right, I *wasn’t* thinking). The core supporters of a reading game for people with dyslexia would be tutors and parents who are currently looking for tutoring for their children. My tutoring center closes down for the two weeks at the holidays. In fact, my tutoring center closed the week after I started the Kickstarter and just opened back up this week, so broadcasting to fellow tutors was hit and miss — and parents were busy dealing with the holidays and having their children out of school.
2. Fail forming a support network: I have talked about this game with some of the tutors in my center, but I have not gone wider. I was waiting for a working copy I could share. I did think the campaign would be a good way to share that working copy widely, but I should have (and will when we release the game app) created a small cheerleading group of parents and tutors who can help me spread the word.
3. Fail in focus: I focused too little time on the campaign (especially on getting the campaign video where I wanted it– to anyone who watched, I apologize for the epic horror of my over talkative self). I tweeted almost every day, but I did no outside promo because I was swamped with other work. As anyone who reads this blog regularly knows, I have a lot on my plate. I’m bringing out my backlist as ebooks, learning how to be an author in the digital age, finishing a blog novel for my daughter, and trying to promote my book sales to fund my daughter’s wedding. I also tutor and am taking an advanced course in Orton-Gillingham methodology. I also teach writing. I knew it was too much last year, but I couldn’t find the heart to drop anything that matters so much to me.

This Kickstarter kick in the heart has brought reality to bear — I’m going to take the weekend to evaluate everything I’m doing, prioritize it, and drop the things that prevent me from getting these games out to the public. The ebook promotion and sales will have to remain priority number 1 until daughter’s wedding, and travel/lodging for our family, is paid for. Then the games will roll up for their turn.

Happily, we have found an artist who doesn’t mind working for future royalties. He’s a student, and not getting paid will mean he’ll be working in between everything else, just like we are. But slow and steady isn’t an awful way to do something important. Better than not doing it at all, right?

So, in summation, for anyone who wants to start a Kickstarter campaign: get your cheerleading squad identified and stoked to help you before you launch; make sure that you can focus on the campaign for the entire campaign — look for opportunities to blog, share, get interviewed, etc. — if you can be visible every day of the campaign, that’s not too much; lastly, timing is critical, but it also depends on what you’re trying to fund — if your project is a waterproof bikini summer may work, if it is a new kind of snow shovel, try winter.

I hope my Kickstarter fail insights can help others to tweak their campaigns to reach funding level. In this economy, sweat-equity start-ups need all the help they can get.

Now I have to go break up with some of my work and life overload. I have no tips or insight on how to do that. Maybe next week.

for new readers, you can catch up on the Confessions of a Turtle Mom wedding saga in the Confessions of a Turtle Mom blog entry).

Here’s my progress so far:

Weight loss: GRADE - Incomplete. Haven’t weighed myself yet, or taken a baseline picture. Too depressing. Next week.

Exercise: GRADE – D+. 15 minutes of Kinect Adventures yesterday. Will do 30 minutes when I finish writing this blog.

Eating: GRADE – B+. This is one I find easiest to do (I’m such a laptop jockey it isn’t funny how much I avoid moving). High protein breakfast all 4 days in January: yogurt, almonds, and honey; veggies and cheese for lunch for three days; no carb dinners were harder — 1 day so far.

I thought I should do a little photo inspiration for my transformation, so I went looking for a cute dress for my better bod that I could wear to the wedding. I came up with this red one. Elegant, no? Okay, stop laughing. I know I need to keep looking.

The wedding is outdoors. Maybe this one?

Yeah, I’m going to keep looking. I need: something for someone with no bustline and no waist that doesn’t make me look like a thick stick. Or…if my transformation is not complete, something that doesn’t scream “Apple in the House!”

Any and all suggestions are majorly welcome.

And don’t forget: The Fairy Tale Bride is only 99 cents until the 7th, for the Backlist Ebooks sale!